Jane Ammon

About Jane Ammon~ Photographer

Specializes in Children and their Families

And is Naturally Devoted to Childish Delight

Archive: ‘Family Talk’



Listening to the Graham Cracker Slump

Tuesday, May 14th, 2013

He was sitting at the dining room table when I looked up from the couch.

(His father and I had just committed a serious parenting FAIL.

A cluster **** of a mistake that I lost sleep over.)

I took a breath and listened.

With my whole body to his

Slumped over, head down,

nibbling small bits of his graham crackers,

eyes staring off distantly

shoulders creeping towards his ears,

legs hanging like wet noodles from the chair.

His body was shouting at me.

*I’m in pain Mama.*

We called him over to the couch.

Thus began a discussion where we, as a unit of 3,

explained

apologized

discussed

cried

held hands

problem solved

hugged.

A few minutes later he went back to his graham crackers.

I took a breath and listened again.

He sat tall.

Swinging his legs.

Shoulders relaxed.

Big bites of his crackers.

Eyes relieved.

And then, my body whispered to me:

*I’m so glad you took the time to listen*

(I hope I don’t fail him again….

though I know I will,

so I will just keep listening…it’s all I can do.)

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Tough Men Wear Pink

Monday, March 18th, 2013

I woke up Friday morning, groggy from a week in Vegas…opening my eyes to a smiling boy.

“Mama! Welcome Home! I am going to wear pink to school today because no one believes me that I like pink!”

A small grin creeped across my face.

“Awesome buddy!”

Later that day, a crestfallen boy got off the bus.

“They laughed at me. It was awful. So I took my sister’s sweatshirt off and put it away.”

Tears slid down his round cheeks, little drops of disbelief landing into puddles of shame.

My husband, Erik, and I hugged him.

Tightly.

Thus began a conversation about standing up for what you believe in. Being strong, being fearless, being brave.

The difference between letting what other people think ruling your world and being an individual.

His sister talked about her time in goal.

He bit his lip for a few minutes.

“Will you buy me a pink shirt this weekend?”

It took everything in our power not to leap off the couch in joy.

This morning there was uncertainty. Fear. Tears.

I told him it was his choice. He needed to decide what his heart was telling him what to do.

A few minutes later this sweet face came bouncing into the living room.

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A few minutes later he used my label maker to proclaim:

tough men wear pink

and

tough men wear pink

So, yeah.

I’m that Mom.

The one that blogs to the world that her son is the strongest, toughest kid she knows.

As my friend Lisa said when I sent her a text today:

Today….He’s my hero.

My Daughter Is Fearless (why am I afraid of that?)

Wednesday, February 20th, 2013

Fearless Daughter

“I told Coach Danni I want to play keeper in the next game!”

The words plunked onto the dinner table like coins falling out of my pocket, spinning around until they stopped my heart.

I felt my husband Erik’s body tense up next to me as I sat up straighter in my chair.

Feeling the same anticipation, fear, uncertainty and anxiety I was feeling.

My “Really honey? You do?” matched his “Are you sure?”

Her little body squared up, almond shaped eyes narrowed at us, lips into a straight line.

“YES.”

Gulp.

“Ok. If you are sure….”

My fear lingered in the air.

Fast forward to the night of the game, Erik and I were making dinner in the kitchen discussing the upcoming game.

And it hit us.

Like a soccer ball to the face.

She was fearless about being in goal.

Why weren’t we fearless about encouraging her?

So we did.

We told her to go be fearless.

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Then it happened. Our fears came true.

She got scored on.

1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 times

After the sixth goal, her arms hung limp by her sides after she wiped away the tears

I thought I was going to die from the pain.

“BE FEARLESS MADDIE, YOU GOT THIS”

Her little body tightened up. Her lips pursed, her fists clenched, she was MAD.

She stopped one goal just before they took her out.

Everyone in the arena heard us.

We didn’t care….

Our daughter taught us it was ok to be FEARLESS.

 

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